Why Didn't He Call?

Recently, a girlfriend of mine was upset that a guy, after their first date, did not call her anymore. I told my truly upset girlfriend that he could be busy with work and might call her later. “But he promised to call!’’ she said. So I asked: “Did he really promise or just said he’ll call?” She replied it’s the latter.

I try to explain to her there are many reasons why a guy would not call the girl (anymore) after the first date. “You know, dear, perhaps he finds you unsuitable for him and so didn’t want to waste time going out with you.” I said. She replied: “But it’s only the first date. How would he know we won’t click?”

Sometimes, during or after the first date one would know if he or she likes the other party or not. Most people called it “chemistry”.

I, as usual, trying to be analytical, explained the possibilities of him not calling her:

• He could have lost his mobile phone and hence lost all his contacts. Who can remember phone numbers nowadays?
• He feels that he doesn’t deserve you because you are too beautiful.
• He finds you resembling his mother.
• He dislikes your dining manners. Perhaps you eat too loudly?
• He feels guilty of not telling you that he’s married or already has a girlfriend.
• He didn’t get what he wants on the first date.
• He feels that his mother would not approve of you.
• He realizes that he is indeed gay.

Once I accidentally stepped on the toe of my date with my high heels and didn’t even notice till he told me. I never heard from him then. 8-(

I did advise my girlfriend to call him but being Asian, (a rather conservative one), she refused. So I taught her what I learnt from a book I’d read. It’s about mental skills vs physical skills to accomplish something. In that book (could not remember the title), it said that experts had found out that if one mentally project a successful image in the mind, it would come true. For example, a person may not know how to play basketball. If he or she imagines throwing the ball into the net (imagine that a few times), and when they try to throw the ball into the net, it actually work. Another example was that the experts gathered some people and divided them into two groups. Group A would do regular exercise in order to slim down. Group B would just imagine that they would slim down. Guess which group actually slim down? Group B! (I am still trying to use this technique to lose some pounds).

So if my girlfriend starts imagining that the guy might call her, he might call her some day. This, based on my true experience, actually worked for me. Quite a few times, I imagined the guys would call me, and they did. 8-)

I also advised my girlfriend to move on and not waste time on that guy who didn’t call.

One Wife Not Enough

Most people should know by now about film maker, Jack Neo's affair who was exposed by his mistress. Couldn't avoid not knowing as news of his affair were splashed all over local newspapers and the internet. Many expressed 'shocked' over his exposed affair.

Why shocked? This is happening all over the world daily. Celebrities and non-celebrities are doing it. I'm not saying its morally correct but nowadays, nothing could shock me no more.

Just look around your surroundings: Your married GM could be sleeping with his secretary; your colleagues could be cheating on their spouses; and worst of all, your best friend, (or even your male friend) could be sleeping with your husband.

Some women always say:"I have faith in my husband". However, they do not know, a lot of times, their husbands don't even have faith in themselves to resist temptation. You see, when faced with such situation, men don't use their brains to think; they think with their "little brother".  And as they aged, maybe its their mid-life crisis or old aged crisis, they would go for girls half their age, (if not more). I wonder if I'm in my fifties (like Jack), could I have men in their twenties? I feel nauseous with this thought.

One thing I can't comprehend is, very often, the wives would "close one eye" toward their husbands' affairs. Was it because the wives have no earning power and were afraid to starve to death when divorced? Or was it just so simply "for the sake of the children"? Could the wives close one eye if their husbands passed sexually transmitted diseases to them? Beats me, really.

And for those men who proclaimed:"I didn't stray; I'm faithful". Ha, don't be so confident yet. This is because the devil has yet to use this (temptation) to destroy your life. When you really meet one woman/girl, half your wife's age, has all the attributes you'd dreamt of, and by then if you still intend to stay faithful, my advice is: put on your sneakers and run; run as fast and far away from her. Chances are if you stay longer or wanting to prove you can resist her, you end up falling for her and the rest is history.